Dear Working Mama, You are doing a great job! I know that it doesn't always feel that way, especially when the guilt kicks in. Our list of worries, laments, and feelings can vary for each of us (in no particular order):
- You wonder if you should be a stay-at-home mom, because it's better for your child(re).
- You lament that you're missing out on things during the day/evening (depending on your work schedule) when someone else is with your child.
- You forget to send in the needed things to daycare/preschool/the babysitter, because your mind is torn in fifty billion directions.
- You feel guilty that you enjoy the break from your child(ren) while you're at work.
- You feel guilty that you're distracted at work thinking about your little ones, making you not the top notch employee you once were.
- You plot ways to be able to stay at home, but realize you can't afford to do it. Now you wish you would have planned and saved better.
- You feel overworked, underpaid, and unable to finish your to-do lists.
This list could keep running on, just as the depth of our guilt, insecurities, and fears. The judgment from other moms and women don't help these feelings either. I'm here to tell you that you are awesome. No matter what the internal or external dialogue is telling you, you are doing a great job.
Your list of accomplishments are also great:
- You are fierce at slashing things off a to-do list (whether or not all fifty billion things come off).
- You can juggle a purse, work bag, diaper bag, and baby up one flight of stairs and down another.
- The depth of your love for yourself, child(ren), and your work is impressive.
- You are a great role model for your child(ren).
- You are a strong woman.
- You know how to plan for what you and your family needs.
This list could keep running on, because you are great at what you do. Mama look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you're beautiful and GREAT at what you do. When you see a working mama, tell her she's doing a good job. She needs to hear from her village that she is enough and that she is accomplishing more than she knows. Trust me, she really needs to hear this from you, as you may be the only person telling her.